It’s all about drive; those who have it, are driven, those who don’t, get driven, ask yourself what drives you today, and then what really drives you….is it failure or success? Are you afraid of failure or do you want success more, which one aspect drives your thought processes?
The fear of failure or the prospect of huge success, how do you define what drives you, as your drive criteria?
If you are not getting the results you expect, and not living the life you envisioned, thereby not getting what you want out of life, then you have to revisit your thinking, and perceptions, our paradigms – as it all combined determine how we focus on things that become our drivers.
Most people don’t even know themselves well enough to know what these things are; the things that change us for the better, or worse; or turns us into the worst – thinking is the best place where we can start to become our own worst enemy.
If you are not getting results, no joy, then Start with the obvious; stop referring to past mistakes, and stop looking for excuses and reasons to justify anything to yourself and others – that is history. You did what you did, now it’s done, it might still haunt you, but its a fact and now history – stop levitating to the negative and the past mentally. If not we are then directly responsible for our own self induced failures…because what we focus on more, we get much more of.
This is ‘failure reinforcing’; and forms the beliefs that you have about yourself and your abilities. The greatest danger of mind and things of thought, is that we becomes self centred, and we turn the knife inward, inflicted with bad thoughts we become self consumed on destruction. The danger of ‘”Failure reinforcing”’ is that it leads to just that, more ‘failure forecasting’ and in turn, you could then expect to get more of the same, and just that.
Wise men have battled these aspects in the past, and left us with these warnings; simple yet effective they are; “what you sow you shall reap”… “what you think about comes about”, “energy goes where attention flows”… and so I can carry on and on.
Just know that your mind is the only “power tool” you have and know, that is always plugged-in and ready to use…it’s how we use it that defines everything we are, do, say and experience.
For instance, create order in your thinking, to create right thinking. It is now known that; when we have Wisdom first, and Knowledge second then it equal’s creation, where we have Knowledge first then Wisdom follows, it only equals chaos…
So apply these pearls of wisdom now, and get the wisdom behind the success story;
Simple everyday things we as men do, that influence our success, and corporate behaviour like sex, yes, sex;
Napoleon Hill wrote; (then we are all emotional as well, and this impacts on right thinking)
I discovered, from the analysis of over 25,000 people, that men who succeed in an outstanding way, seldom do so before the age of forty, and more often they do not strike their real pace until they are well beyond the age of fifty. This fact was so astounding that it prompted me to go into the study of its cause most carefully, carrying the investigation over a period of more than twelve years.
This study disclosed the fact that the major reason why the majority of men who succeed do not begin to do so before the age of forty to fifty, is their tendency to DISSIPATE their energies through over indulgence in physical expression of the emotion of sex. The majority of men never learn that the urge of sex has other possibilities, which far transcend in importance, that of mere physical expression. The majority of those who make this discovery do so after having wasted many years at a period when the sex energy is at its height, prior to the age of forty-five to fifty. This usually is followed by noteworthy achievement.
The lives of many men up to, and sometimes well past the age of forty, reflect a continued dissipation of energies, which could have been more profitably turned into better channels. Their finer and more powerful emotions are sown wildly to the four winds. Out of this habit of the male, grew the term, “sowing his wild oats.”
The desire for sexual expression is by far the strongest and most impelling of all the human emotions, and for this very reason this desire, when harnessed and transmuted into action, other than that of physical expression, may raise one to the status of a genius.
One of America’s most able business men frankly admitted that his attractive secretary was responsible for most of the plans he created. He admitted that her presence lifted him to heights of creative imagination, such as he could experience under no other stimulus.
One of the most successful men in America owes most of his success to the influence of a very charming young woman, who has served as his source of inspiration for more than twelve years…
Makes one think!
Johan Campbell wrote; – “What is, or has been, is seldom, if ever, an indication of what may be.”
Do we just live for one day only, by living our days, one day at a time? When every day is just another day gone by, and so what.
What did you do with it? How have you improved anything let alone yourself? What did you change? For too many people all that will have changed is that they are a day older.
Everything that now exists at one time did not exist. Just look back through history and see the incredible changes that we have gone through to get to where we now are.
What you have and where you now are, is the result of what you have done, and accepted, up to now. What you may have and where you will go, depends on what you will do from now. There is a saying “Whatever you can do, I can do better” Well that is just not true. There are certain things that you are specially equipped to do, and with the best will in the world I will not be able to do them better than you. However whatever you can do, I can learn to do, but more importantly whatever I do, I can do better.
Everything that you now do with ease at one time you could not do at all. You had to go through a learning process. Everything that you want to do you may not be able to do now, you have to go through a learning process, and you can learn to do anything, if you want to. So;
Learn from your past. Unless you learn from and grow past your past you are doomed to repeat it. Don’t be defeated by past “failures” learn from them so that you don’t repeat them. Don’t rely on past successes, build on them. Realise that your best of yesterday is merely mediocre in terms of what you now can do.
Plan for your future. The future is given to you as a countless set of possibilities. It is your responsibility to choose the future that you want and then to go to work on it by working on your mindset first, get the right thinking going, to make it a reality.
Live now. Realise that the only limitations to your personal growth are the limitations that you accept mentally. Act as if it were impossible to fail, and that you have the ability to go through walls. Free your creative spirit, to forecast sunny skies, reinforcing the positives in your life, realise that “What is, or has been, is seldom, if ever, an indication of what may be.” Don’t let your past, and present circumstance dictate your future…
Then start with a recipe of change; have a plan, you can’t get on a train without a ticket, you can’t go and grab your future without a plan either, a recipe.
“The Recipe for success = See it – Believe it – Plan it – Do it”
See it – Everything is created twice, first in your internal world, your imagination, and then in your external world, your life. Everything that exists to-day was first a thought. It could not exist if someone had not thought of it, because it is the thought that gives rise to the action of creation. What you must learn is to picture what you want and not what you fear. All too often we say “I don’t want this to happen again” when we should be saying “I want this to happen” Always ask for and picture what you want. See yourself as already being the way you want to be or having the thing you want to have.
Believe it – This is an essential element of the process. All too often we say one thing but believe another. We want to lose weight but we do not believe we can. We want to change jobs but we do not believe that there are any opportunities or that we have the skills.
Your belief in your goal must be on two levels. Firstly you must believe that there is value in the achievement of your goal that it is worth doing. Everyone’s favourite radio station is WIIFM (What’s In It for Me) what will you gain by achieving your goal? How will your life improve? Remember that underlying every action is intent and it is the intent that is the driving force behind your actions.
Secondly you must believe that you can do it. You must develop an unshakeable faith in your ability to succeed. Confidence in your ability to achieve your goal is essential to your willingness to take action. Realise that you have already managed to achieve many successes in your life up to now. Build a success foundation for yourself by writing down all the successes that you have had up to now. Imagine that you were applying for a job and write your CV showing all the reasons why you would be suitable for the post.
Plan it – Success is a process not a destination and as such needs a plan of action to ensure success. The funny thing about life is that most people plan their holidays with more care than they plan their lives, but that’s understandable I mean holidays happen only once a year and life, well that’s forever isn’t it. Work out what you have to do in order to achieve your goal. What resources do you need? What resources do you already have? Remember it’s not what you’ve got it’s how you use it that counts. Set objectives, these are the steps of your journey. Refer constantly to your plan; it’s the only way to measure your progress.
Do it – Funny thing about ideas, they won’t work unless you do. Now that you know what you want to do and why you want to do it the only thing left is to get started, and the only time to get started is now, (when did you ever do anything tomorrow?)
Believe this, the future belongs to those who believe in themselves enough to act on their dreams. Faith is the wind beneath the wings of your dreams and action is the fuel. Take charge of your life and determine your future with this “Recipe for success = See it – Believe it – Plan it – Do it”
Believe that your past can’t keep you captive;
“Give yourself a ‘Presidential Pardon’”
The value of a presidential pardon is that it erases all previous crimes and convictions from your record. These may no longer be used as evidence against you. You get a chance to start over with a clean slate.
Give yourself a presidential pardon now. Stop referring to your past mistakes, or even think about them, this again, is ‘failure reinforcing’ and forms these beliefs that you have about yourself and your abilities – in the negative. The great danger of ‘failure reinforcing’ is that it leads to more and more reinforcement of a false belief, ‘failure forecasting’, lets you see failure every day, in everything, and no one can live up to your expectations. Not even you, yourself. And you expect to get more of the same – what comes around goes around.
Imagine just for one minute, that you can wipe out all of your mistakes, your failures, the things you did that you shouldn’t have done, the decisions you made that turned out wrong. Imagine that you could dump all the worries, resentment and guilt that you are carrying with you. What would change in your life? How would you change? What would you do differently?
Realise that unless you change your thinking, your perception, then nothing else will change significantly enough, that will influence your behaviour, to alter your reality. You are merely going to make the same mistakes again, and close the cycle. Here’s a good example;
You know that there are a lot of people who sow their wild oats from Monday to Saturday and then on Sunday pray for a crop failure.
It never ceases to amaze me how many people ask for forgiveness of their sins every Sunday. My question is, if you were forgiven last Sunday, why did you go out and sin again? If you know enough to ask for forgiveness for what you have done, then you surely knew enough not to have done it in the first place.
The first time you do something wrong that’s a mistake and is easy to forgive. The second time you do the same thing wrong that’s carelessness, don’t expect forgiveness so easily. The third time you do the same thing wrong then that is deliberate and you do not deserve forgiveness. Then you revel in the thought of being a victim.
Now I am not saying that you should ignore your past actions what I am saying is that you must stop beating yourself over the head because of what you have or have not done. You cannot change what has been. You cannot go back and make a fresh start, but you can start now; willing, to change the way you live, to change the things that you do, that makes you feel bad, sad, depressed, sick, lonely, unsuccessful etc.
However, you must realise that you are responsible for the consequences of your actions and you should not try to avoid that responsibility. If there is anything that you should, and can, do to make amends for your actions then do it. If there really is nothing that you can do then drop it.
Learn to evaluate yourself and others on present, not past, performance. We all have the ability to change. We have all done things that we wished that we had not done, anyone who says different will lie about other stuff too. But you can change; you no longer need to do those things. Many people have been able to overcome tremendous problems, addictions, and ill feelings have succeeded in totally changing their lives, just by taking the decision and going over to action. You can too.
Acknowledge the tremendous potential that you have within you, do it now. The ability to change and grow is unlimited. It is not what you did, nor know or what you did, or never did, no, not doing anything about what you know is wrong is what counts. What counts is what you now know and what you are now doing about what you did or did not do. Give yourself a new start; free yourself from the emotional jail of worry and guilt “give yourself a presidential pardon.” Then use the recipe, the “Recipe for success. See it – Believe it – Plan it – Do it”
Credit to; Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill – Why Men Seldom Succeed Before Forty
Credit to; Johan Campbell – Thoughts to live by
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